Okay, so you made it through the holidays without a boyfriend. Maybe you wished you had one, maybe you were happy that you didn’t have to spend money on some guy that you’d probably break up with a few months later anyways. Whatever the status of the issue may be, your status on Facebook still still claims your “single.” But do you still want to be? Everyone is different and has different reasons for dating or not dating. Maybe you’re too busy to have a boyfriend, maybe you’re too shy, you don’t know too 
many people, etc. You wanna know what I’m calling all of those if you DO want a boyfriend? I call them excuses. The only thing that should define if you’re single or not is that it’s you’re personal choice, your preference, your place in your life at the moment. So, to all the ladies who are single, good for you. 
Being independent is an amazing feeling. It can be lonely from time to time, we all know that. But, sometimes it really pays off when you accomplish something huge all on your own. There are definitely perks to being a single gal, so don’t think I’m singling you singles out. Being single is fun, let’s you be free, wild, and mingle without worrying who you might piss off. I know I’m probably making the single life sound pretty okay, but having a boyfriend is great too, you just gotta make sure he’s the right one to spend your time with. If you’re making the transition from single to mingle to finding someone who will make your heart jingle, here’s some confidence boosters and tips to consider that’ll make your excuses useless.
- Be confident. you can’t have a conversation with someone who isn’t willing to speak their mind or even just speak up. Just be you. Strike up conversations, the more you do, the easier it becomes. If they don’t end up liking who “you” are, they’re not good enough for you anyways.
- Experience new places. Meeting new people and finding your new possible bf means branching out. If you haven’t found him where you usually hang out, go out and find him. If you don’t find him right away, you still got to meet and see new things.
- Try an online dating site or phone app. Yeah, it sounds weird, but if you’re still too shy to go out on a limb in public, give online flirting a test. No pressure and it’s great practice to build conversation techniques. Who knows, maybe prince charming was hiding on the internet.
- Don’t go in with expectations or high hopes. You don’t know what to expect from meeting someone new or going out in search. Accept life and the people you meet as they enter your life. If you already put expectations on a cute guy, you’ll miss out on who they really are.
Remember that we regret not the choices we make, but the chances we never took. You only have this one life, so enjoy it, live it the way you want it, and surely you’ll find someone who wants to spend it that way with you.
