You know that boy that you’ve known or felt like you’ve know since grade school? The one that was always by your side in any situation and there for practically anything you needed. Sure you guys probably had your ins and outs, your distances and close times, whatever the story, he’s still in your life and is a major part of it. Throughout the years you had boyfriends, he had girlfriends, but did the thought ever linger in your mind, “What if we were together?” “What if we were more than ‘just friends’?”
It’s a scary moment when that happens, you start to think about what you should do, if you think they might feel the same, or if you should simply ignore it. Coming from experience, I know that the decision isn’t easy. You love your best friend and wouldn’t want to ruin the life long friendship you’d envisioned you’d have with them if you tried to take it a step further. If you took the love you already felt, and attempted to make it the real deal. They obviously made it this far in your life, earned their spot and you know you couldn’t live without them, would taking this step ruin it all? No longer your go-to when you made a bad decision, had an amazing night, or even just felt like talking to someone. It’s truly a mental and emotional strain, but we’ve all been there. Confused and possibly in love.
So, what happens when the curiosity becomes too strong? Do you really love him, or leave him in the friend-zone? Depending on your situation, the steps to this conclusion will probably vary. If he’s currently in a relationship, you may just want to shove those thoughts away. Destroying someone’s current relationship for the selfish wonders of your own isn’t the answer. You might end up best friend-less as well as mess up their own personal happiness, not cool girly. But if he’s single and you’ve decided you can take it no longer, here are some tips to help you sort yourself and the possible relationship out.
As lame as this is going to sound, take some online relationship quizzes. I know that that seems totally high-school but, sometimes, depending on the site, they can give you some pretty decent feedback. Especially when it comes to reading your guy in questions behavior. Based on the results, and your own intuition, it might be time to be bold and make take that step towards telling them how you feel. First, I would suggest going out for a lunch or coffee with them. Something normal, practical, and relaxing where the two of you can just be yourselves. Make sure it’s just you two though, no groups outings today! While your at this little secret possible “date,” keep calm and remember to breathe. Your heart is probably going to feel like it’s going to bust out of your chest, as it should. This person is your rock, you don’t want to skip him into the lake, lost forever.
Now, if you and your best friend seem to flirt from time to time, start doing that to break the tension. Joke and just see how he reacts by you taking control in the situation. This will throw him off guard, or if he’s unresponsive, you know the mission is a no-go. If he is having just as much fun as you are, keep the vibes up and try to make the experience last as long as possible. When your time together is coming to an end, be bold, look him in the eye, and say it, “I like you.” They’re your best friend, and if they don’t feel the same way, it’s okay, maybe awkward for a few moments, but that’s deal-able. But, you’ll never know until you say it, until you make that move. Maybe they’ll feel the same, or be shocked, or might not even know what to say at first. Girls making a first move like that can often be very surprising to a guy, in a good way. It shows confidence and spirit. I’ve been told that we often regret the chances we never take. Don’t live your life so when you’re looking back you’re saying “I wish I did this” or “I wonder if I did that.” Let this be the first step of that chance taking lifestyle. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner so why not? Fail or success they’ll still be there and you’ll make it work one way or another. Just trust your intuition, your gut, and most importantly your heart Maniac, it usually has the best intention. 
